"The problem really arises when mods look down on people they work for - us"

and

"the difference of course is tat we are not give the chance of who moderates us"

I imagine that in the first place,the mods work for the person who runs the site, and in the second place, for the majority of people who post here.

We all have the chance to decide who moderates us. It is just a matter of setting up a site of our own.