If anyone is in a fragile state, don't worry as much about the ones who are always mean (any gender against any other gender...I thought I made it clear but I oversimplified I guess). The ones who are always mean, you know what you are dealing with. Protect yourself from those who are one minute nice, the next nasty, the next it is your fault that you did something that made them retort. Those are the ones to watch out for and avoid and to just not let into your life until you are stronger than they are.