The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #165433 Message #4075763
Posted By: Stilly River Sage
17-Oct-20 - 12:30 PM
Thread Name: De-clutter & Fitness: House, job, life 2019 - 2020
Subject: RE: De-clutter & Fitness: House, job, life 2019 - 2020
When I worked on various family estates I found that all of the lifting and shoving and general walking around led to a desirable higher level of fitness. Just as well in this time of COVID-19 when going to the gym can be risky behavior.
Those houses where I was working weren't my home, so I set up a break station so I could stop for a cuppa tea and whatever baked good I'd brought with me for the day. It was also there for others who were in the house to help.
After several great aunts' household goods came my way I realized that I'm not a museum and I started selling things on eBay. This allowed me to learn about items, decide the appropriate value, and if there was a story behind the item it was included (I am a storyteller, so the backstory was sometimes the thing that helped the item sell). Quite a few things went to collectors, and I still have the photos but they don't take up space or collect dust. Just to splat an item and a photo on eBay is impersonal; I didn't spend a long time writing, but I did flesh out the listing.
At my Dad's house the donated items were assigned a value and used to reduce his tax bill for the year he died because I was the administrator.
I still have quite a few kitchen items from my father's house in use here, and they serve as daily reminders of his enjoyment of cooking (something he learned after my parents divorced). When I arrived at his house to work after he died I ended up using several of his heavy cardigan sweaters and have kept them for cool days when it isn't cold enough for my parka. I have a couple of his comfortable chairs for reading. The rest was distributed and donated.
Mainly, I have his music collection - his papers, recordings, reference books, and equipment. That I still need to do something with the print and audio resources to donate to the university where several other Puget Sound area Mudcatters have already donated their collections.
The files were probably the most personal part of his estate, and I worked his paper shredder overtime. You notice that I haven't offered any advice about how to emotionally process this - I'll just give the head's up that the files can be a really hard part to work on.
Take care. Stay safe. Come up for air several times each day, and talk to people regularly.