Eliza and Dave make good points, boiling it down to finding good role models. I have a couple of those people in my life, I just have to remember on occasion to ask myself what one of them might do in a particular situation.

In this time of COVID I find people are so desperate for conversation that even the grocery store checkout line is quite an animated place. With masks on the "Smize" of smiling with your eyes is something to cultivate and I've tried to express.

It's when you get to political speech and the personal tendency of not suffering fools gladly that things begin to fall apart. Most of that happens online these days, though, so it's possible to tell yourself "enough of this!" and walk away from it.