"Don't you see that when you use your upset with one group to point fingers at that group, or as an example to describe your upset with any other group, you are part of the hate and not part of the healing?"

Which do you prefer WYSinskcoweifoEOFI? "YOU'RE HITTING ME AND yOU CALL YOURSELF cHRISTIAN AND i HATE YOU and all Christians." or "You're hitting me and calling yourself Christian, I don't like you hitting me."

"Don't you see that to link hurtful behaviors with religion at all is to make the same error in thinking that is behind the wrong behavior?"

You cannot fix the misappropriation of religious teaching without clearly naming it "misappropriation". The distinction needs to be made. Uncomfortable things need to be faced, even the discomfort of having your religion discounted and badmouthed by many because of the example of others. As has been stated atrocities have been and are committed in the name of religion.

Don't you see that hectoring people to stop mentioning religion at the same time as the acts that are committed in its name is to muzzle all effective discussion?