Mrrzy, I have a close relative who has made himself the black sheep of the family, and when I hear of a shooting in the area where he lives I cross my fingers and look it up, hoping it isn't him. So far it hasn't been, but he continues to live on the edge. Lots of lost jobs, disputes with co-workers, and of course he knows better than anyone the truth of what is going on when others are "wrong, but blame him." In his telling, the bosses always end up agreeing with him, but somehow still seem to let him go. He's mostly hardest on family members, so we just stay out of his way.

I hope there is a good outcome for you in this.