keberoxu, I'm a firm believer in calling out bad behaviour. We can keep quiet about it, endure it, and hope we make it through unscathed to the other end or we can be proactive and tell someone we trust and hopefully find a workable solution.

Stand by what you think is appropriate, and by that I mean, don't get pushed past the limit you are prepared to go in solving the problem but, as I said to a couple of ex-colleagues who were standing their ground against a workplace bully, "keep your eye on the prize" and don't lose sight of the goal to be achieved.

For that to work, you need to be sure of what that goal is for you. If, for example, it is a better and safer residential environment for you, then keep that goal in mind while others around you are trying to work on the issues. You need to be comfortable with the outcome and be alert to the possibility of being railroaded into something you could regret afterwards. I suppose I'm referring to setting boundaries, with the person you are not happy with and also with anyone who wants to take up the cause for and/or with you.

(Sorry, I was a Union representative for most of my working life. I'm used to standing up for people and especially helping others to stand up for themselves and achieving the desired outcomes, hopefully win-win outcomes for everyone, as far as possible.)