Yes, wisdom indeed from naemanson, and the others. I'm sorry I can't explain more, but I think that the source of my problem is a person who is bitter following a tragedy in her life. The problem is, while I hate the way she is attacking me, I know she is in a lot of pain after a bereavement and has been for many years. I would hate to make her feel even worse.

What naemanson said about categorizing those with the power to hurt was good advice. Luckily in my case, my family is great, great, great, and I thank God for them.

I realise the lack of specifics here might be difficult/irritating/puzzling, but the details are a bit too unusual for comfort and someone may just realise who I'm talking about. Thanks, anyway for the general tips and thoughts. They help to clarify things.

I might ring you Hawker, but your lips will have to be sealed. And just what image did the name Demi send to you, may I ask?

thanks friends