In a nutshell that sounds like something many women have encountered at some point. It all piles up at once (of course it doesn't pace itself.) Walking away from a lot of stuff like that is really difficult - having a few witnesses along the way who can share the story if need be is as much an insurance policy as it is support (not letting bad guys isolate her from friends and family).

Yesterday I rearranged sprinklers for a better watering result next to the house. My goal is to water just the garden and foundation, not the house's brick siding and upper composition trim. There is one spot of trim I already have to repair (water was the culprit), I don't want to add any more.

"Office casual" for an annual retiree dinner tomorrow. Since I spent the first 16 years of my career there working from home, our definitions of "casual" may diverge. I'll make sure the jeans are clean and will wear a knit top that doesn't have any slogans on the front. And I have a small bet with myself that it will be the ubiquitous chicken and rice dinner the university is famous for. It usually has wild rice in the mix, so it isn't bad, it's just unimaginative. ;-)