We went to see her yesterday and the undertaker has done a good job. She looked asleep! We wanted to go because our son did and we wanted to support him. His last memories were of her collapsing on the pavement outside their house and in the hospital surround by wires so this has put his mind at rest a little. It was upsetting of course but I think it is a milestone in the grieving process to say your last goodbyes in a calm, gentle environment.