The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #173245   Message #4201137
Posted By: Robert B. Waltz
17-Apr-24 - 11:08 AM
Thread Name: New VWML Website (Full English)
Subject: RE: New VWML Website (Full English)
I hope this will be my last word on this subject, because it's obviously doing no good.

To all those of you who think VWML made a series of mistakes... I agree. They apparently put themselves in a technologically unsustainable situation, and when they realized they had to do something, they released the result before it was really functional.

Like you, I hope they will fix it. This certainly matters to me, because I have to produce working links to the thing!

I do not disagree with this. Where I disagree is in getting angry about it. No one here knows how the situation came about, or whether we would have done better in the same situation.

More to the point, getting angry and/or grumbling won't help. Neither does saying, "You should have done X." Particularly if one has not contributed to VWML, either in time or money or both. Casting blame only makes people get defensive and less willing to listen. Without going into details, I can say that I have already seen this happen with them, even me without casting blame. The more you sympathize and the less you blame, and the more you are willing to help, the better results you are likely to get. This is basic behavioral psychology.

If you want proof, look how people in Washington, D.C., or Westminster spend most of their time blaming The Other Guys, and the more time they spend blaming, the less they get done.

So think about what you would like, and what you need, and what would make it possible -- but don't attack people to get it. Because, if you do, you very likely won't get it.