This one is going to take patience, Sorcha. From what you have said....he's going to need to feel ready and that will take some time, darlin', BUT she is already singing in your heart and you in hers...he will hear that and be ready. And, it's not about the money...I think I'd hold off on that altogether...let him come to terms and set them out there. If it is a gift, then it comes from the Universe and you know, you do deserve that.luvyakat