The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #174029   Message #4227549
Posted By: keberoxu
23-Aug-25 - 02:58 PM
Thread Name: BS: stay out of trouble thread
Subject: RE: BS: stay out of trouble thread
A fellow resident at the retirement home is getting on my nerves.
It is keeping me awake at night because the encounters are triggering for me.
This woman is very persuasive, even seductive, about insinuating herself into someone else's life.
I have been very short with her, yet she persists in trying to get me to open up.
She gives me the creeps, frankly.
For one thing, she has given me too much information that I didn't ask for.
She sat down next to me one day to tell me all about the drama of her childhood, concluding with the fact that she grew up to become a counselor. Then she asked if my childhood was worse than hers. I didn't say much.
I honestly was not prepared to open up and spill my stuff,
and the more she pressures me, the less I trust her.

I'm afraid I will have to confront her and tell her, no more of this.
After all, I can't change her behavior, but I can change mine,
and up to this point I have just been stubbornly withholding without confronting her about how icky she makes me feel.
Because she has been so persistent about pursuing me and getting stuff out of me,
I expect her to resist and persist with me, which won't be nice.
But I have to be firm and make clear that
I know that she is trying to lead me somewhere, and
that she will not lead me one step further on this particular path.
I don't look forward to this, but I have to do it if I want to get some sleep at night.