Thank you Sandra, MaJoC and The Sandman. :-)

I think the Aged Care place is a good one, but my strongly independent Aunt would have been raging against the machine and the family which put her there against her will. It probably did accelerate her decline but she was 98 years old, so a very good innings and her dementia was getting worse with no chance of going anywhere but downhill from there.

My rage against the machine is not being told about all of this as it happened, step by step, and even not being told that she had passed away.

I'm hoping that after the memorial service I might calm down a bit and focus on appreciating the life she lived and the people she cared about.