MaJoC, I'm sad for you father's time in that place. It is not easy finding the best place to live at that stage in life, and the difference between one home and another may not even become obvious until after the deal is done. When my Dad was in hospital for a couple of weeks and said he wanted to move to a retirement village which he knew was a good one, the complexities of the paperwork were overwhelming. He passed away soon after, before we had to navigate all of that. He would probably be happy with that because he always said he wanted to stay in the house he was born in to the end of his days. He achieved that.

I think I need to take inspiration from Sir Pterry (Pratchett) and organise my end of life plan while I still have my full capabilities. I'll also have to get the DNR (Do Not Revive) tattoo on my chest.

I think that that is the really sad thing about my Aunt. I tried to start a conversation with her a couple of years earlier to see if she would investigate her options for retirement living but she abruptly and firmly changed the subject. I think she assumed she would still be firmly in control of her life to the end. By the time her dementia kicked in, she had no say at all in the matter.