Just to close my little family story, I went to the memorial service for my Aunt yesterday. The church was full, mostly women but also a number of men among the crowd. My side of the family were there, and I we finally met some of my Aunt's side of the family. (They live down south and there have not been many occasions where the two sides of the family have met.)

I had a lovely chat with some of the other side, and with my sister, her Hubby and one of her sons and his wife, and also some cousins I have not seen for a few years.

I can finally let go of all those feelings (e.g. frustration, anger, disbelief, etc) that I had and remember the good things in her life.

We have all gathered together and commemorated her life, and her niece gave a good eulogy with a few laughs added about what a strong personality she was i.e. strong willed, pushy, determined, etc.

The bad news is that currently there are a lot of bushfires in Australia so that is the big focus, although luckily our local area has been spared. The south eastern state of Victoria seems to be the worst hit area.