Marty if it's a romantic "second chance" that's a whole different kettle of fish, those have so many "ifs, ands, buts, and so forth, that often second chances end up happening every two weeks and the initial problem is STILL never resolved.

I had a serious problem with the actions of someone about a year ago, and really felt pretty lousy about what I thought was gonna be a nice friendship. The person apologised, but sometimes that's just not enough....at THAT TIME. I've come to know a lot about that person and the pressures they were under that seemed to result in some pretty reckless behaviour at the time.More importantly, THEY became aware of why they acted that way. It's much easier to offer a second chance to someone who's gone out of their way to PROVE that they really are a nice person. That person has.

Years ago, I could be quite acerbic (naturally, I thought I was just being funny) and I know I hurt a few people QUITE UNINTENTIONALLY. If I could find those folks again, I'd say: "What you thought was caustic, was a really shy introvert trying to fit in, just too damn insecure to be around groups of people without acting like a smart-ass."

Hesperis' post rings true to me. You absolutely don't know a person 'til you've had a personal interaction with them. NEVER let someone else poison your mind about a third person, 'cause you simply don't know both sides of THEIR interaction with that person.

Wow, this has got me thinking! Well, Jim did it, so I'm gonna too.

"Alison Grant,(of Cleveland Ohio) if you're out there....I was a lousy boyfriend, and I'm sorry. You deserved better."

Shit, I'd better get back to the "Guitar threads" as well.

Rick