I think we find out what are the most important roles in our life by thinking about whether we would be essentially the same person if that role were gone.

I am a singer and a psychology researcher - both are equal parts of what makes me me. I couldnt stand it if I wasnt able to sing for some reason, but equally, I would hate to lose the academic and research side of me. If I couldn't do it as a job, I would do it as a hobby. Maybe one day I will swap and become a singer by profession and a hobbyist researcher. Then maybe I will find out if both those roles are the same to me.

Bagpuss