The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #32762   Message #432583
Posted By: Bernard
03-Apr-01 - 07:46 PM
Thread Name: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
Go for it, Kat. I've done lots of that sort of gig, and the one thing I have learned is not to be intimidated by the surroundings.

Do the music you enjoy, and that enthusiasm will rub off on your audience. Laugh with them, not at them, and they will enjoy themselves all the more.

Don't be afraid to talk. If working 'one-to-one', make 'eye contact' by looking at the end of their nose, not straight in the eye. It's less distracting for you!

Most important of all, remember they aren't going to be all that critical about your performance, so you can relax and get on with it.

One last thing - people in a hospice don't often have long left, but they won't behave that way. Two problems arise - arriving to find they are no longer around is obvious, but less obvious is the temptation to try to compensate for it on their behalf. They know, and prefer you to carry on as if nothing is wrong.

Three weeks ago I lost a fairly close friend to cancer, so it's fresh in my mind - and maybe she's helping me write this, because I don't know where some of this is coming from...

She wasn't in the hospice for even a week...

I have no regrets, as I know I did my bit for her, and she is no longer suffering. All is well.

It's possible that some of this sounds patronising - sorry, it's not intended that way. I'm speaking on a general level - take what advice you need, and ignore the rest!!