"I am sure the US would NOT do what the Chinese are doing if the shoe was on the other foot."
If you believe that you'll believe anything.
The ground rules in this kind of situation is and always has been that where you are caught spying, the spying equipment is forfeit.
The weirdest thing about this is you get people talking as if "saving face" was important to the Chinese, but not to the Americans.
There's probably a dead pilot in all this. Who is going to apologise for causing his death?