Shambles, I like your nonwedding song a lot. Check out the Hunting the Duck thread for a link to the Zeke Hoskin page and a song from his "Reprieve" tape called something like "Gonna throw myself at you and see if I stick" (Y'know spagetti, wall?)
And I don't think it's particularly a woman thing. (So come out from under that table before I hit you.) I struggled all the way through the writing of that with what to tell and what NOT to tell. Geoff had me cut the verse about cops and coroners - it was graphic and he was right. Graphic is not always more forceful. I was looking for single voice to tell the story.
He kept asking me, asking our class, "What do you want to say?" For me, I wanted to say that (1) it was awful and wrong, and (2) I was grieving and (3) I knew all of this and still loved Lisa .
I don't see 'gone' as a euphimism, but rather as a message from the heart. The head says 'dead', the heart says, 'gone, forever.'
Try singing it with 'Sara's dead' instead of 'gone', and see how it changes. Do you like it better? Blessings,
Barbara

I'm left with a question from your song. What is this guy DOING at the altar when he so clearly wants to be elsewhere? He should do everyone involved a favor and split before it's too late.