Basic rule, as always, is the Golden Rule. In this case - if that was your mother or your child or your aged parents, would you see it as right for someone else to do what you are doing to people who are someone else's mother, child or aged parents.

To stick with that you don't need to be a saint or as scholar. You might need to have courage. If you don't stick with that you certainly aren't a hero, no matter how many medals you get.