Sigh....i add to this thread a very old story. About the wise man by the river? A couple was preparing to cross, and asked him what the city was like on the other side. He asked what is was like where they had just departed. They said it was awful, filled with strife and hate. He said that is what the city across the river held. Yet another couple came up, and asked the same question. So did he. Their reply was that they hated to move, their former home was so wonderful, with loving, fabulous people. He said that they would find the same in the city across the river. You tend to get what you are looking for, in anyone. Just try it sometime.