and to be honest, kat, I was writing generally above...not picking on YOU...*grin*...bother me? no more than having someone say "ya know" every 5th word...you get used to it..*shrug*...it sure isn't a major issue! And it is very hard here to 'show' you my expression and the degree and depth of my bemusement at the vagaries of life. I am MUCH more concerned about the use of the forum for various threads about religion, alien infestation and healing ..and that has been MUCH less of a problem lately as 'phoaks' have found other ways to share these interests. *smile*(I have been parodied for using ellipsis ......and *grins*....in my posts)