LEJ, I was in the exact spot last summer as your friend. I didn't want to say anything to her because I treasured our friendship and didn't want anything to affect it. To make a long story short, I was preasured into telling her (thanks Matt and Andy!) and were still friends. I'll never forget how she smiled at that moment though. He should definatly tell her.

Sad guest, when I was telling my story with a friend out east, she pretty much said that she's been through the same thing, on both ends and that friendship can still work out. So for, it's worked out for me. I know what you mean though. The feelings don't just go away.