Back to the thread for a bit... Kendall, I don't think of it as self indulgent but rather a call to what's important. Thank you.
Reading these posts gave me a new thought, although it may be old hat to everyone else. It just occurred to me that I've had it all wrong or at least only partially right. When one thinks "I'm glad I told him I love him before he died" or "regret that I didn't get to tell him", we may be missing a more important point. If I tell someone truthfully that I love him or her and then it is I who dies, that's important. To leave someone with the clear information that we had prized them is a wonderful thing.