Isn't it funny, (I do it myself) when people are confronted by what seems to be unequivocally a total asshole, they start thinking it's their fault? Second-guessing themselves? Why do we do that, I wonder? Why not just admit that this person was being an asshole?

I'm not attacking you, John, I'm just wondering out loud why you and me and probably everybody else on the 'Cat have these self-doubt moments in the presence of genuine jerks.

There's a PhD thesis in psychology wrapped up here!

Alex