UB Dan, you and I are on a very similar wavelength! I would hate it if I went to a session, played a tune and nobody joined in.

At the end of the day what is needed is consideration for others. Joining in by singing or playing is fine as long as it is appropriate. I suggest that playing a bodhran with virtually EVERY song (mostly unaccompanied) is inappropriate.

Paul S.: Humour is indeed an ideal way to calm things down, if we laugh at the situation together it reduces the potential for further ill feeling and hopefully gets forgotten in the mists of time. Great so long as he doesn't forget to ease off on the bodhran!

Cheers,

John John