Lyndi Loo I have to say that I take exception to a lot of what you have written here. "Although women have the equipment and skills for child rearing, ever since neolithic times they've been goading men to go out and hunt the best meat. In nature the female will mate with the strongest and most succesful, so that all men do is geared up to getting the girl. WOmen are probably more ambitious too (cf Lady Macbeth, Eleanor of Aquitaine) and how many matriarchal societies are there? So yes men are trained (by their mothers) to be big and brave and not to cry, While girls are trained (albeit unconsciously) to be manipulative and with an eye to the long term "

Tamberlaine? I would hesitate to suggest that one gender is more ambitious than the other based on fictional representations of historic characters. Women do not always choose the strongest and the most successful, many women choose the exotic, the sensible, the artistic, the abusive or the sensitive. From personal knowledge I can tell you that I do not raise my son to be big and brave and not cry: I am attempting to raise an emotionally healthy child not a cripple. If I am unconsciously training my daughter to be manipulative I'm doing a bad job of it as I am a lousy manipulator.