Thanks, Mick- it's true that for some reason the tears come at most unexpected times. If I know that it's a "trigger" song I can be prepared and practice! Alan S., I too have a son with a disability (Asperger's syndrome, related to autism) and the most earth-shaking moments for me are when we reach him, or he reaches us, as when he joined us in singing a whole verse of "Amazing Grace". That's why I've got to learn Barry's song! I agree that tears are nothing to be ashamed of, it's just that they come all too frequently and are a far worse curse for me than stage fright. And I'm one of those whose pipes just freeze and get all squeaky- so all of the advice has been much appreciated (even tho' I still don't know why I should look towards the upper right- harpgirl, are you there?)