The question that all rythmn players should always ask themselves:Am i supporting the group sound?I don't play bodhran, but I play a rythmn instrument: upright bass. I can do all the fancy riffs; but I choose NOT to use them 95% of the time. Why? Because the role of a rhythm instrument is to contribute to the ensemble--not to stand out as a solo instrument.
Bodhran players: find the groove, the beat, the rhythm. When you do it's like riding a wave. You'll get compliments, and the group sound will be great!