Mudcatter:

No, I don't think cyberstalking and spousal abuse are equivalent. (Nor did I say so.) But both have this in common: the victim is often blamed for the situation they find themselves in. This is what you did when you told me I deserved whatever I got. I don't know everything about you, but I know that you are willing to make a statement like that, and that's more than enough. Telling any victim of any abuse that they deserve what they get is pretty awful stuff. Even if the abuse is "just" verbal (ask any domestic abuse survivor how it starts).

If you're going to tell me I deserve whatever I get, why in the hell should I want to PM with you? So you can be nasty to me in other ways that you're ashamed to do in a public forum? Oh, goody! Forgive me if I'm not all eager at the chance.

I'm close-minded? You say I deserve whatever I get, and I'm close-minded? You're a trip.

Alex