thanks for the posts. the Lady will not have continuous care at home despite local government help 3 times a day to ensure she took her medicine. She took three asprins today over the space of 3 minutes and insisted she had not had one yet, each time. The bubble pack looked a if it had been fresh that day - that illustrates the level of concern we have. Still the next door neighbour has been taking the dog in as well - she was also determined where the priorities lie.
Ah yes the telephone call......... Call me chicken but I sent a text message to the effect of not getting the message in time (true) asking her to trust me and signing off with Love (I must be desperate to use the "L" word).
Thanks again but I still have to face the music someday and I don't want to take an arrogant stand - or a knowing one either.