A problem for me is sometimes I like a good argument. It's when it becomes pointless (often circular), illogical or abusive (and it's just my definition of these things) that I bugger off. Sometimes I bugger off because other people get upset at the fact the argument is taking place at all, but I don't know that I should. I'm sitting here very calmly typing, and others seem to envision me in their mind's eye red-faced, raving and foaming at the mouth. I can't remember the last time I got like that, but I think it involved my mother trying to spoon feed me creamed asparagus.

As far as wanting people to tone down their anger into something bland and PC, sorry, but I'd rather have some clue as to if they actually are foaming at the mouth! The only thing we have to communicate with here is words.

I also don't trust people who feel like they have to hide their anger with me or mince words. I don't like the disruption that a display of passion will cause, but it's not the same thing as wanting the passion to go away. We wouldn't get so angry if we didn't care, and we care intensly about a lot of things both good and bad. We express that passion. Maybe that's one big reason why we sing.