Also, the "Arab" world didn't want to know when Moslems were being slaughtered in Bosnia/Serbia - because they (the Moslems) there are "white" and "European looking"

Sorry, Hille, that's just not true. There were lots of people from Arab countries who volunteered to fight to protect their co-religionists in the Bosnian war. The way that was seen by Muslims in general was that fellow Europeans didn't care too much about it because the victims were Muslim.

Maybe you didn't mean it that way, but it seems so easy for people to slip into ethnic stereotyping like that. Even when they are with the conscious part of their mind protesting against race hate and sectarianism.