I can't really say what helped me, but I can say to any fellow Mudcatter who lost anyone on this last go-round, PM me if you need to talk to someone who's been through this before. As many of you know I lost my father in an earlier (1983) terrorist attack. Been there, done that, and... time does pass. I do remember that the worst was the time between knowing about the bombing, and them identifying the body, so for those of you who haven't heard yet, I again offer my support.