And this wasn't about violence really, more betrayal, which is worse than violence. Violence is visible and mostly short lived (bruises and bones heal). It can be dealt with in one of several ways. In the UK it's either a caution, a fine, or a shortish prison term. Betrayal is invisible, devisive and it can last for ever. Even if you forgive the person, you can never trust them as well ever again. There is always that little nagging of doubt and that is what will kill any relationship, friend, colleague, parent, child, lover whatever, stone dead, because in the end, that little nag will take over.

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