Jeri: I wonder the same thing about myself, but it is their problem. It's like my singing and playing. I still am not sure if I'm good or bad. I just know that I can't do anything else, and I hope I am good enough that it is enjoyable for others. I promise you, that you are beyond good. But, I bet that if you are like me that no matter how many times you hear it, there is still this little doubt in the back of your mind.
In the South that my mother grew up in (really West Texas) it was the host's responsibility to make sure everyone was part of what was going on and feeling connected. Even now, sometimes I just watch in amazement when during a party, wedding, or other event hosted by a Southerner. It is truly an art to weave through the crowd drawing shy folks into a conversation here, introducing two people that they think will get along there, drawing out strangers. We lost something in our new modern world.
So don't worry about what is the past. You certainly are not that way now !