As far as the cabin goes, is it not normal for people to select who they sleep with? Many of the Mudcat folks are close friends and some feel like family to me. I'm more than happy to put on a social face when I'm somewhere besides 'home', but I'd rather not have to feel sociable where I sleep.
I do think we need to quit stressing our Mudcat connection, though. I don't think we need to avoid all mention of it. Maybe if we just adopt an attitude of "I am an individual at the Getaway" instead of "I am a Mudcatter at the Getaway." Maybe we individuals are on Mudcat, maybe we're FSGW members, maybe we're guests. References to Mudcat membership sometimes felt like "he/she/I is/am one of THEM." I've been coming for 3 years now, and I don't want to be "them" - I want to be "us." Thank goodness, nobody seemed to ever TREAT me like one of "them" after the first year, and the first year "them" was seen as a bunch of friendly others. At least that's how I felt.