I've been there as probably a lot of us have. For Gawd's sake don't stay in a bad marriage. We only live once, and if you stick it out another year, that's one less year you have to find that special someone who will really value you. Same for your partner. Whatever you do, don't use the kids as an excuse for staying either. It's not great for them, but they'll know quite a few other kids in the same boat. There's no shame in divorce anymore, because although we may not be smarter than our 'stick it out til the bitter end' parents, modern society has made us far more complex. To find a partner who plays your music is divine.

marty