On the other hand, people, women especially, project a lot of stuff onto performers-when the person is turns out to be just a person, they are disappointed

--GUEST,Fiver

Men do it as often as women. It's something that a lot of people of both genders do, and not just to performers. A lot of people look to others to provide something that is missing within themselves. Sometimes they project their needs onto larger-than-life figures, and sometimes they project them onto people they meet in their daily lives.

It starts out with the person in question being put up on a pedestal, which can be kind of nice in the beginning. But it's hard to be human up on a pedestal. And when one's humanity shows, one gets knocked down off of the pedestal, which isn't much fun, and leads to a lot of bad feelings on both sides.

I guess the answer, and not an easy thing to do, is what was expressed by Tom French up above. Peope have to be able to find happiness within themselves. If we look to others to provide us with our happiness, we will ultimately be disappointed.