We can get into some pretty heated debates around here, but folks generally respect one another. A person's words can seem harsh if you can't imagine the smile, or the twinkling eye that would punctuate them in real life. The world is full of weirdos - most of the ones around here are behave kindly most of the time. Most of us can occasionally "lose it," and it takes our own concsiences or a friendly word to bring us back to rationality. The ones who don't don't care about being kind - those who flame because it makes them feel superior, or those who hang onto grudges, and go into anonymous troll mode...who cares? It's their problem - let 'em keep it.