Mark, thank you so much for telling your story. We lost a wonderful friend in August in a car crash and it has been a very hard few months - we haven't even began to come to terms with it 5 months on and this Christmas has been very hard. I have been looking on Amazon books myself, looking for a book that perhaps I could buy for our friends widow and his three young children. I have actually had the book you mentioned "Talking to Heaven" in my shopping basket, but at the last minute decided against it in case I was doing the wrong thing. Now that you have said how much it seemed to help you, I'm definately going to get it. I'll let you know how we all get on with it. I wish you a very happy 2002.