I figure most of the problems people have with Mudcat come from a belief that we can make things go the way we want around here. When things don't go according to our vision, we get frustrated and pissed off. Trying to direct what other folks do or say here, though, is a bit like herding cats, or maybe more like trying to change the path of a river. We want folks to post less, or more, or say what we think they should say, or stick to the topic, or read the thread, or be nicer, or get less pissed off when other people aren't nice, or not act like sociopaths, or not look for excuses to be offended... The river, and Mudcat, just continues on its merry way, and takes little notice of us, and we stand by its banks, livid with rage. It ain't worth it.

It's not that we can't sometimes get people to understand our point of view, it's that we can't conrol how anyone but ourselves behaves here.

Bbc said she had to learn to stop caring about Mudcat. I never did stop. I had to learn to stop caring about what I thought Mudcat SHOULD be, and find what was good in what it IS.