I've only just seen this thread, Pat, and I have some idea of what you have been tolerating for a long time, so I am pleased that you are now ready to take action.

I know that you are a brave and resourceful woman, and will get through this. If your husband was capable of reasonable two-way communication, it wouldn't be so difficult right now.

You know where I am if you need anything, and the spare room is vacant if you need it.

Cheers, Bron.