"Doom and Gloom"? Sorry SRS--the truth isn't doom and gloom-it is something that you have to deal with--and the problems don't appear right away, they appear over time--

Your attitude seems to be that after a month or so, when everything had settled, things were fine, and you all went on merrily with your lives--Maybe for you it worked like that, but not for the kids--They seem to go with the flow at first, but they really just internalized the pain--it sometimes takes years before they let it out--

Having seen, first hand, how this plays out over the years, I know what the mistakes are--I would prefer that people take care not to make the same mistakes, because I know where they lead you--