My children are so much calmer and seemingly happier since my separation- I'm not trying to make a point here, just reporting what I see and feel.

One major reason for leaving my husband was that I hated to see what the constant rows and tension were doing to my children- not to mention seeing one of their parents being treated with utter contempt by the other... think of the damage that will do to developing minds, when you try and persuade an unhappy couple to stay together.

gargoyle, some of us here know Patrish very well and know what she's had to put up with for a long time, which is why we feel able to advise her. If you are ignorant of the situation, feel free to stay out of this thread.

Noreen