I'm not sure what you think I am saying--but what it seem like you are saying is that, because your kids didn't have any long term problems as a result of your divorce, that it isn't anything anyone needs to worry about--

I am saying two things--that a lot of kids who have trouble of one kind or another, also have experienced a divorce, and that kids in that situation keep a lot inside, so that often, it isn't obvious--

Parents going through divorce tend to be pretty wrapped up in their own problems, emotional, financial, and legal--leaving the kids on their own to deal with what is probably the worst experience of their lives--

Your kids may be fine, and thats good--I hope everybody's kids do all right--If you are aware that they are in a situation that often results in problems down the road--you've got a better chance of protecting them--