Deda

In Idaho the parent telling the child that would find themselves in contempt of court. Probably a warning the first time - but the second? A night in jail. Very strict rules around alienation of affection here.

Not to mention it just isn't right.

My initial post is based on my experience with families. I am an MSW, my specialty is families, and I would like to think I have a fairly solid working knowledge of the dynamics surrounding children involved in divorce.

M.Ted is correct in that one must be careful in their interactions with children. But I believe one should always be careful when interacting with children. I think it simply wasn't worded in a manner that clarified M.Ted's intent - M.Ted's last post was quite elequent about where he was coming from I thought.

SRS - I also do Child Protection. So I understand where you are coming from. And the statistics presented earlier are not reflective of the reality I deal with on a daily basis. Very few children suffer long term debilitating effects from a divorce. Those that do are usually as a result of physical, sexual, and severe emotional abuse prior to the divorce.

You must remember that since I do work where I do we have a bit of a different outlook on things. One of our favorite sayings is, "Children survive and thrive in spite of all our parents best efforts to raise us correctly." This has been a good thread - many here have a solid working knowledge of the issue and the main concerns were well addressed.

I find that anytime one can openly ask for help the faster they move into recovery.

Steve