Right - there is sometimes choice in whether to come out or not. Sometimes not, as people do get outed against their will.

The NPR bit kept mentioning "those 81 words" which I assume were the definition of homosexuality as a disease, can anybody post them? Now there are, I think, 237 words, which define BEING gay as a normal variant but being UNHAPPY ABOUT being gay can still be considered a mental condition (I don't think we say Disease any more). But I'd like to read the original 81 words.